When you still love each other and it still isn't working
Specialist relationship counselling with a BACP Accredited counsellor. Ninety-minute sessions, fortnightly, for couples who are tired of having the same conversation.
Most couples don't come to me because everything has fallen apart
They come because the same conversation keeps happening, and neither of them can find the way out of it.
The loud version
An argument starts over nothing and ends somewhere neither of you meant to go. By morning you're being careful with each other again, and nothing has actually been resolved.
The quiet version
You're kind. You're organised. The children get to school, the work gets done — and somewhere in all that competence, you stopped being close. Nothing is wrong, exactly.
Either way
You've almost certainly tried to fix this yourselves. Most couples try for years before they ring anyone. That isn't failure — patterns are very hard to see from inside them.
I'm Luke Brownlee-Williams
I'm a BACP Accredited counsellor and clinical supervisor, and I've spent my career working with relationships — as a therapist, and as the person other therapists bring their difficult cases to.
I trained specifically in couples work. I mention it only because relationship counselling is its own discipline. A lot of people offering it are individual therapists working slightly outside what they know — and couples can feel the difference in the room within about ten minutes.
You won't be handed to an associate. You'll see me.
More about meLuke Brownlee-Williams
- BACP Accredited counsellor
- Clinical supervisor to other therapists
- Specialist couples training
- The relationship is the client, not either of you
- Clifton, Stroud and online
Ninety minutes. Fortnightly. No sides taken.
A clear framework, not endless talking — and not a referee's whistle either.
Minutes, not fifty
An hour isn't enough for two people. By the time you've both said what happened, it's gone. The longer session is what lets us get past the incident and into the pattern underneath it.
Days between sessions
The work happens between sessions, not in them. You need time to catch yourselves doing the thing we named — that noticing is where change actually starts.
Sides taken
I'm not there to decide who's right. The relationship is my client, and both of you need to believe that or neither of you will be honest with me.
Almost every couple is caught in a cycle: one partner steps back, which makes the other push harder, which makes the first step back further — and round it goes. Most couples can feel it and can't name it. Naming it is where it starts to loosen.
Two ways in. Most couples take the first.
Ongoing sessions
Book as you go, usually fortnightly.
- No package required, no minimum commitment
- Some couples come for six sessions. Some for a year.
- Stop and come back later if life changes
- Clifton, Stroud or online
The Foundation Package
For couples who'd rather begin with a defined structure.
- Together — map the landscape, find the pattern
- One of you — space to think without managing anyone
- The other of you — same time, same attention
- Together — name the cycle, agree what changes
Start with a free 30-minute callNo charge and no obligation — tell me what's going on and decide whether I'm the right person.
Book the callDifferent presenting problems. Usually the same underlying work.
Find the pattern. Change it together.
The hardest part is the first phone call
Thirty minutes, free, no obligation. You tell me what's been happening and we work out together whether I'm the right person for it. Either partner can make the call.
Book a free 30-minute call